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Acceptance
" The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change ." - Carl Rogers - I was first introduced to the...
2 days ago5 min read


Relationship advice
The other day I was asking myself what relationship advice I wished my parents had given me growing up. Now, quite frankly, as a teenager...
Apr 15 min read


Respect
Respect is something that comes up a lot in therapy as a vital ingredient for healthy relationships. This is why in this post I would...
Mar 25 min read


Touch
These days, we are often so ‘de-touched’ from our very own bodies. It seems that many times, we are engaging our mind at the expense of...
Feb 18 min read


The power of pep talk
Do you have these moments when you want to curl up in a ball like an embryo and hide under the covers? When the world seems too hostile a...
Jan 16 min read


Not wanting children
There can be many reasons why we may choose not to have children, and they will inevitably be linked to our own unique life story. With...
Dec 1, 20245 min read


Reducing family tension at Christmas
I started writing this post in January when I was reflecting on the festive season that had just passed. It had been the first year where...
Nov 1, 20244 min read


Blurred lines
The longer I am living, the more nuanced my understanding of relationships becomes. Having witnessed a wide variety of thoughts, feelings...
Oct 1, 20244 min read


Labelling – a common parenting pitfall
Many times, I am reminded of how the instructor of my hypnotherapy training half-jokingly talked about all of us having 'mummy and daddy...
Sep 1, 20245 min read


Facing up to the challenges of parenthood
Pregnancy is one of those moments in our life that invites us to review our own childhood and the parenting we received in order to...
Aug 1, 20244 min read


Silence as kindness
It strikes me how often silence is misunderstood. Not only can it be a powerful tool to facilitate sense making. It can also be an...
Jul 1, 20245 min read


In defence of silence
I have been meaning to write a post about silence for a while. This one is about the power of silence in the therapy room and beyond. At...
Jun 1, 20244 min read


The skill of saying no – how to do it in practice
My last post invited you to consider a range of factors that might play a role in your struggle to say no. As I outlined, understanding...
May 1, 20245 min read


Learning to say no – the conceptual underpinnings
Do you know this situation: Someone is asking you for a favour, and your initial gut feeling tells you to say no but you still find...
Apr 1, 20245 min read


Practicing calm assertiveness
In my last post, I was writing about what being assertive actually means, why we may choose not to assert ourselves and what could be the...
Mar 1, 20245 min read


A vision of calm assertiveness
Have you ever experienced this? Someone is entering a room, and everyone else goes quiet. The person doesn't even have to say anything....
Feb 1, 20245 min read


Procrastination – do we even need this word?
I started the day feeling fairly confident in myself and now this: My seemingly great ideas are not going anywhere, one after another. I...
Jan 1, 20244 min read


How to expand our emotional vocabulary
How have you been? I am asking my client at the start of a therapy session. OK she answers. I vary the polite but often not very...
Dec 1, 20235 min read


Getting through Christmas
What used to be the highlight of the year can easily become the most frightening and difficult time when we are without our loved one(s)....
Nov 2, 20233 min read


Caring too much
As a child, particularly if we have younger siblings, we may have been given the message that it is important to look out and care for...
Oct 1, 20232 min read
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