Labelling – a common parenting pitfall
Many times, I am reminded of how the instructor of my hypnotherapy training half-jokingly talked about all of us having 'mummy and daddy...
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- Aug 1
- 4 min
Facing up to the challenges of parenthood
Pregnancy is one of those moments in our life that invites us to review our own childhood and the parenting we received in order to...
- Jul 1
- 5 min
Silence as kindness
It strikes me how often silence is misunderstood. Not only can it be a powerful tool to facilitate sense making. It can also be an...
- Jun 1
- 4 min
In defence of silence
I have been meaning to write a post about silence for a while. This one is about the power of silence in the therapy room and beyond. At...
- May 1
- 5 min
The skill of saying no – how to do it in practice
My last post invited you to consider a range of factors that might play a role in your struggle to say no. As I outlined, understanding...
- Apr 1
- 5 min
Learning to say no – the conceptual underpinnings
Do you know this situation: Someone is asking you for a favour, and your initial gut feeling tells you to say no but you still find...
- Mar 1
- 5 min
Practicing calm assertiveness
In my last post, I was writing about what being assertive actually means, why we may choose not to assert ourselves and what could be the...
- Feb 1
- 5 min
A vision of calm assertiveness
Have you ever experienced this? Someone is entering a room, and everyone else goes quiet. The person doesn't even have to say anything....
- Jan 1
- 4 min
Procrastination – do we even need this word?
I started the day feeling fairly confident in myself and now this: My seemingly great ideas are not going anywhere, one after another. I...
- Dec 1, 2023
- 5 min
How to expand our emotional vocabulary
How have you been? I am asking my client at the start of a therapy session. OK she answers. I vary the polite but often not very...
- Nov 2, 2023
- 3 min
Getting through Christmas
What used to be the highlight of the year can easily become the most frightening and difficult time when we are without our loved one(s)....
- Oct 1, 2023
- 2 min
Caring too much
As a child, particularly if we have younger siblings, we may have been given the message that it is important to look out and care for...
- Sep 1, 2023
- 3 min
The meaning of work
In the same way that every human being is unique, the meaning they will give to their work is very individual. Many times, we are not...
- Aug 1, 2023
- 4 min
Do I have to love myself?
One of the things I have noticed over recent years is how widespread the use of the terms love and self-love have become. I may hear...
- Jul 9, 2023
- 5 min
How to work with a positive self-statement
Unfortunately, we are so very good at talking ourselves down, often multiple times a day, frequently without even realizing it. The...
- Jul 9, 2023
- 4 min
What our dreams can tell us
Since an early age, I have been interested in the meaning of dreams. I remember buying a book about Freudian dream interpretation when I...
- May 11, 2023
- 3 min
When grieving gets complicated
Nowadays, grieving someone's death is often experienced as socially undesirable. Instead of seeing grief as something normal and healthy...
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